BEING AN EXPAT HOUSEWIFE
When I first moved abroad with my husband nobody warned me about feeling frustrated, I would experience as an accompanying spouse of course, that was almost 15 years ago and nobody was telling much by way of preparing for an overseas assignments.
Time has changed. With the help of internet a spouse can now find out about a country’s climate and customs. But the internet can’t tell her is how she will feel about living abroad for the sake of partner’s job.
Missing the home country , parents, relatives,friends and so on. It can be especially challenging for the spouse when the day arrives that the partner disappears to work and her children vanish with the school bus.
One of the great joys of growing older is the arrival of grandchildren and the mutual adoration that so often develops between the youngest and oldest members of a family. Relationships with children grow through constant care. When you are living close, this type of care comes easily through the time you are able to spend together. However, when you’re living thousands of miles apart, this becomes more difficult to accomplish.
Positive in this is living far away fromhome ,it’s natural to turn to each other to fulfill a variety of needs. It’s also easy to underestimate how long it takes to make friends and feel comfortable.
But my husband had the advantage of going to a job everyday’ offering him benefits I didn’t share. His dayshadstructure , he made friends at workand he maintained his professional identity.
Being a housewife in abroad is like stressful and lonely. I had too much time to dwell on frustrations. Many days lacked focus. I remember a tense period that first year when my husband would come home from work wanting to talk about events of his day. When he asked me about mine, I resentfully felt like I had nothing to tell him.
Later I changed my routine and showed interest in cooking and other creative things like drawing, painting etc. After that I slowly started using internet and browse through the sites to read e-books.
At last I found my destination where I have me any online friends and share my interests and obtaining new skills through them.
Now I have many things to share about my day to my husband. My days are blessed by you guys.
If you are a newcomer to abroad prepare your mind for being alone for the time being. Try to develop some skills which will engage you the whole day and use the internet to gain your knowledge. This will keep your mind fresh and life will be easier for you .
Thank you Lady’s wings for giving me such a wonderful platform to share my views….